I try to put myself first. For me, I’ve had to do that physically and emotionally. One of the best ways to do self-care is to surround myself with people who are real model of it and who are also really motivated to inspire me to do it. And I have tried to work on my own relationship with the idea of being productive and what that means? Just doing some things that makes me satisfied and honoring my needs because I find that’s something that really feeds me. In our society, there’s a belief that a good, nurturing woman gives and gives and gives… Until she drops. If she takes time off for herself, she is selfish. Too many of us buy into this belief and give and give and give until we’re so exhausted we can hardly move. Then we give some more! I really thankful for a friend whose been told me that I have to say NO and have to speak up for myself. Then I learned to choose and pick groups whose missions match my heart and passion. I can be supportive of many groups- but I have to choose.